and so it begins--for like ever....
about 3 years ago, on a warm night, a neighbor and i were drinking a glass of wine when she suggested that we walk down to the local, salty dog bar.
not being one to hang out in bars, i hesitated. actually, as memory serves me i delivered some snotty comments on the whole idea. but, whatever, i had no match.com dates that night so i decided to go. i mean look at this hole. can't you just smell that skank of 80 year old sea air and stale cigarette smoke? NICE.
immediately upon arriving i bee lined it for the *ladies* room. when i came out, there sat my friend with two guys hovering. there were beers and shots lined up at the bar. i crossed my arms and explained to the guy standing closest to me that , ' i don't drink beer nor do i do shots' he sort of guffawed and asked what i was doing out with such a big chip on my shoulder. i surveyed him, half lidded eyes, smirk on my face. he looked to be about late 20s early 30s. cute. really good hair, frat boy thing going on. wearing an evil knievel t-shirt...that was wet. and sand all over his legs. i asked, 'what's going on with you tonight? you look like you literally just rolled off of the beach' he then told me he had just jumped off of the pier. (see first photo)
people die doing this. no, i didn't think, 'wow that's so hot. i want to marry you' i thought, 'what a douche. who would do such a dumb-ass thing?' in fact, i also probably said this. nutshell: we ended up talking until 2 in the morning. mostly about our dogs. he has a beautiful lab named 'george' i have a stinky mutt named 'milo'. eventually i gave him my phone number . to which he responded, 'why would i call you, you're sort of bitchy'. but you know how guys are. a bitchy woman is intrigue. he called 2 weeks later. we went to dinner and we've never been apart since. nick arquette (nee 'my S.O.') is the most incredible person i've ever known. i knew after that first dinner, that if anything, i needed to keep this man as a friend. his spirit for life was infectious. his leadership in the community had me wowed. nick who lost his mother to cancer at a very young age has, in turn, started a non-profit mentoring program for families who are going through cancer. (walk-with-sally). nick is a giver. he's so patient and kind. he's one of those people others gravitate toward. he's always the life of the party. he's incredibly funny. he's street smart like nobody's business. he believes there are no excuses in life if you want to reach your goals. he's one of those people who is always optimistic. he lives, into his creedo of "always being a man of integrity". he's taught me to take my ego out of situations (god, have you ever tried this when arguing? not easy) so that i can see things for what they are.
he's taught me that life is short. really short. this is it. there is no time to feel sorry for ourselves, to be angry because things don't look the way we thought they should. he's taught me that i am so incredibly blessed and have been given to.....generously. and most of all, he reminds me that this life was meant to be lived having fun. it was given to all of us for this short time....to ENJOY.
last june, in true 'nick form' we drove up the coast to big sur for a quick weekend (a very ambitious trip for such a short amount of time) there, on bended knee, he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. how could i say no. (oh, and a spider bit me on my eye that night so the next day i awoke cyclops style-thanks nature)we're leaving on wednesday to go to mexico where nick and i will be married saturday night at the home of a friend, on the beach surrounded by 50 of our closest friends and family.
(i had to use this picture someplace )
initially i wanted to create some kind of wonderful image board but then realized this isn't that kind of a blog (i'll leave that to the incredible talents at snippetandink) but i will be posting photos from the week and of course the wedding.
stay tuned: for the photos of my mexican wedding!
Comments
Health, Love, Wealth.......& Time To Enjoy Them.
Here's To You And Yours,
Alison
what a beautiful post! perfectly worded, perfectly photographed, simply beautiful! i pray you have a wonderful week in mexico... can't wait to see photos of the big day when you return!!!
wishing you all the best!
erika
Trashy bars are good places to meet nice boys.
Love you.
congrats!
Best wishes for an amazing wedding -- and an amazing lifetime together.
Leah
The images of you and Nick are wonderful and how you met (and the internal and external dialogues) are hysterical.
Congratulations and as the asians say, "May you know only joy!"
umm they also say, "no bebe el auga!" but that's another story
You know,as I was reading this I realized you had never told me the story of how you met. Such a cute story. What I want to know is why he waited TWO WEEKS to call you back? :)
When you are back & settled, I wanted to ask if you might speak with Nick about offering his support to Jen at http://thecomfyplace.blogspot.com/.
While she is fighting the good fight at 39 years old, her cancer is terminal. She's suffering most especially about leaving her son and the pain he will carry because of that. I think if she could talk with Nick, it might make a world of difference to her. Thank you for considering this.
You might not believe me, BUT my husband proposed to me on bended knee on a bluff above the ocean in Big Sur also. Unforgettable!
Wishing you all good things. Have a blast in Mexico! I will be having a Margarita in your honor!
Congratulations, pally.
I will keep in touch for sure , marrying the perfect guy in Mexico ..It would be just my dream !
I already have an house in Cuernavaca where I can have my wedding party. I just miss my MAN
OMG... congrats a HUNDRED times over!!!
This dress is perfect!
Is i married again, this would be the dress! Actually, looks like mine! rsssss
Sorry about my poor english!! rss